A Poem for You

I have a beautiful,vibrant, and intelligent friend who also happens to be funny, down-to-earth and incredibly kind. It’s a killer combo, that’s for sure! She’s just made a big life decision and is going through a rough patch right now. So, I dug-up this old poem that I discovered back in my (emo) high school days and sent it to her. It’s a bit cheesy, but I’ve always found comfort in these words whenever I’ve felt alone or overwhelmed – and thought I’d share it with you all.


After A While

After a while you learn
the subtle difference between
holding a hand and chaining a soul
and you learn
that love doesn’t mean leaning
and company doesn’t always mean security.
And you begin to learn
that kisses aren’t contracts
and presents aren’t promises
and you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up and your eyes ahead
with the grace of woman,
not the grief of a child
and you learn
to build all your roads on today
because tomorrow’s ground is
too uncertain for plans
and futures have a way of falling down
in mid-flight.
After a while you learn
that even sunshine burns
if you get too much
so you plant your own garden
and decorate your own soul
instead of waiting for someone
to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure
you really are strong
you really do have worth
and you learn
and you learn
with every goodbye, you learn…

– Veronica A. Shoffstall

I hope you all enjoyed this mini food-distraction, and to you, my dear friend: I believe in you and am sending positive energy across the globe to you! x

Fiji Sunset

One of the sunsets from my trip to Fiji, November 2010


  1. Hannah says:

    Thank you for this. It’s beautiful, and as a poetry-lover, it’s wonderful to see someone else sharing the beauty and power of words, and their ability to soothe :)

    • vegangela says:

      Thanks Hannah, glad you liked it. Maybe I should add a “poetry” section to my blog ;)

  2. Preeti says:

    This is a charming poem! Words hold such strong emotions, I love poems but I hardly get to read them a lot now, this took me right back to english lit classes, thanks for conjuring up some forgotten memories with this post Angela!

    Ps A peotry section would be awesome :)

    • vegangela says:

      Hi Preeti, thanks for your comment.I agree – words are so powerful! Hmm, will think about a poetry section… ;)

  3. Ah yes this poem brings back memories, I found it again in my folder just a few weeks ago from my much younger new age phase but it’s words still ring true :)

    • vegangela says:

      Hi Karla, funny how we both came across it around the time time. It definitely brings back old memories but as much as things change, it’s nice to see how things have the same value too ;)

  4. Jack says:

    Hey this poem is written by Veronica A.Shoffstall…..

    • vegangela says:

      Yes, I already indicated that below the poem.

  5. Terry says:

    Hi, I thought of this poem waking up today. My life is shattered and I;m seeking grounding methods to make it ok. I’ve been through a lot of self abuse and with a therapist and a psychiatrist I hope to see light at the tunnel. When I thought of the poem your blog (?) came up.
    I do not have a web site but is an email address enough? I am suffering with the grief of a child. Growing up I suffered with emotional neglect and as an adult I don’t know how to deal with things.At one point I was very successful and when I married it all started to unravel with the birth of my daughter.

    • Hi Terry – I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through such a difficult time. I hope you’re able to find the strength and help that you need to move forward X

  6. Grace says:

    When I was sixteen and pregnant and abandoned by my baby’s father and my mother an uncle that I loved bought a plaque with these words on it. They got me through the most terrible time in my life. I’ll never forget them. Thanks for sharing and reminding me of how far I’ve come in no small part because of these words.

  7. Elaine says:

    Just wondering where and when you and Karla first got this poem. This version is not the origional. Was it in the late 80’s early 90’s. I am really interested in the source and I know VS is not the author of the origional, this is her “version”. Thanks for helping me track ot back if you can.

    • Sorry, I don’t have the original source

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